The TAO of dating – Ali Binazir

THE SECRET I LEARNED FROM 5000 WOMEN’S LETTERS
Can you summarize the book for me in a minute? People have asked me that question hundreds of times. So here’s the 3-word summary for ya: BE THE LIGHT.

What does that mean? Well, 5000 or so letters I’ve received from women readers on their dating woes can all be boiled down to this: Does my butt look good in these pants?

Well, okay, sorta. What they’re really asking is Am I enough? Well, are you? Answer: Wrong question!. Because that’s not a game you can win! Focus on this question instead: How can I make the people around me feel like a million bucks?

How to Generate the Love You Want Instead of Waiting for It to Happen

Because at any point in life, you have the option to elevate those around you — with a look, a touch, a phrase of praise, genuine appreciation. Hey, love what you’ve done with that outfit. That was a great book! Learned so much. Thanks for that fabulous home-cooked meal!

When you appreciate and elevate others, they light up. And because we’re hypersocial, empathic beings equipped with mirror neurons, YOU light up, and everyone notices: Who is that glow-in-the-dark girl? I want to be around that!

Now, you’ve got a crowd gathered around you. Lonely no more! And instead of coming from a place of lack or need, you’re coming from abundance, joy, and choice. A much stronger starting point for any relationship.

But most important: Butts and butt fashions change. The power to elevate, on the other hand, is power that cannot be taken away from you. The Tao of Dating is your manual for learning how to be the light and come into your authentic power.